homework!!!

Any relaxing technique is very important with any kind of anxiety. A Relax Kids training can be very effectively. Use also positive feedback when your daughter does her homework. Praise her in this moment. Now the 'real' problem: what is the reason for your daughter's 'homework phobia'? Well, in my work I very often discover that kids or young people often develop a kind of inability to focus or to concentrate. This very often results a negative feedback (from the teachers, the parents, friends, etc). This experienced negative feedback 'forces' the kid then to avoid the situation. The question is WHY those kids have focusing or learning difficulties? Very often those kids want to focus, to concentrate, but they can not. It is not their 'fault' if the reason is of a neurological 'nature', which is often the case for example with ADD/ADHD or similar. In most of the cases with a lack of focus ability we have to do with such 'wire-connection-problems' in the brain. Please watch your daughter in other 'forced' learning or focus situations, like homeworks. If she struggles there as well, or if her concentration span is very short, you should probably consult a professional (pediatrician, psychologist, neurofeedback therapist, behavioural therapist). What happens in situation where your daughter feels save or 'un-forced', whith things she is good with? How are your daughters grade and learning developments in general? Did they change? How long ago? Is there a possible traumatic experience, like a divorce or the loss of a friend, family member or pet? Is your daughter hyper-active or -more likely- under-active? All those and many more reasons could be responsible. Please do not blame her. Praise her when she does her homework. Support her and give her the time she needs. Encourage her and offer your help in a positive way.