sharing? or not!!!

Sharing is a skill we acquire and develop and unfortunately are not born with. It usually begins to develop around four to seven, which is partly influenced by the effect of going to nursery/school and mixing with larger peer groups. You do not say how old your children are but by nature of the fact they are twins they have always had a peer to relate to and so have a particular vested interest in refining the 'art of sharing'. Until the age of about five though its important to take note that all children do not have the social maturity to cope with co operative play without occasional adult intervention. As children develop a wider vocabulary, more self control, develop better social and physical abilities so they will interactive more positively with others. At the moment you will need to intervene more often and try to identify trigger points when the childrens co-operative play is likely to break down. It may be you have to take things back to basics and give them separate things to do and gradually re-introduce them to playing together for short periods initially constantly supervised by an adult. This also gives you chance to demonstrate when mum says no or stop that is exactly what they have to do so that when they play un-supervised they can be parted if necessary without several adults intervening. People often assume that in some respects twins are easy as they always have a playmate.....I am sure you would be the first to point out this in not always the case. Good luck!